I’ve decided to put more energy into celebrating my successes, especially when it comes to approaching women. That way I have less energy wasted on the approaches that don’t go so well. Even on those I learn something, but it’s all too easy to fall into the trap of beating myself up when a woman blows me off or doesn’t want to engage with me. So rather than talking about them, I’m gonna start telling you about the more successful interactions.
I hit the town last night with John, another guy from the upcoming bootcamp. Our pre-bootcamp assignment is to approach as many women as we can. We only just met up last night for the first time, and it was awesome having a wingman who is on the same wavelength as I am.
Together we hit a club in the city, starting nice and early so we had no trouble getting into one of the classier venues. Then we started approaching! We got a bit competitive about it, and all up I did about 8 approaches in the evening, while John did about 6. He’ll have to make it up to me next week.
The friendliest girls I met happened to have boyfriends/fiancée’s, but some were super-encouraging. One of them thought it was awesome what I was doing to learn to engage strangers in conversation. She knew what I was up to; reality is that when we first start doing something, we’re not going to be brilliant at it, and that’ll show. But we ended up in a really enjoyable conversation that was fun for both of us. Almost everyone I approached that night was up for at least a brief chat, and as the evening wore on it gradually got easier. There are some good people out there, and it’s worth taking the time to learn how to approach them.
I have about another month till the actual bootcamp evening, so in the mean time there will be lots more opportunities to do more approach practice, and gradually lessen the old approach anxiety.
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